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Oct 9

We All Need A Steak Night In Our Lives

Sunday evenings at my house are known as ‘steak night.’ Most of you in my regular orbit know about steak night and how this is a sacred,...

Sep 20

The Journey Ends for Now

Over the last 19 months, I’ve spent several weeks in Portugal, Costa Rica and Columbia to escape daily life and the void left by my...

Sep 13

Better Call Saul and his Sidekick Dick Tracy

When someone sends you a message they are closing the door to you, it should come equipped with a deadbolt and alarm system so you cannot...

Sep 6

My Golden Bachelor

Burn out is common with online dating and at some point most of us find we need to get off the apps, clean out our inboxes and take a...

Aug 30

Distance is more than physical

I was man-browsing one evening on the Facebook Dating platform which is never a good idea because there is no barrier to entry – it’s...

Aug 23

Divine Intervention From My Husband

Bill and me in Lodi, CA, 2021 “A Wiccan, narcissist and adulterer walk into a bar…” This is not a poor ChatGPT joke. I actually matched...

Aug 16

Grief is not just about death

There is no chapter in the vintage Dr. Spock’s Baby and Childcare (one of the best-selling books of the 20th century) for what to do...

Aug 9

Ghosts and other apparitions: Sayonara baby, I’m tapping out

Dating apps have more ghosts than a New Orleans cemetery and they are not friendly, notorious or have a great story. These ghosts are...

Aug 2

Some of you are worried about me

Since launching this blog six weeks ago, I have been honored to have some deep and profound conversations about loss, love, death, grief,...

Jul 26

Baiting & Tackling: Fish Dude

The world is full of signs - subtle, precautionary, and those which are obvious and impossible to miss. And yet, when entering dating...

Jul 19

I'm Great.

I’m on my way to have dinner with some dude who I’m not sure I’m at all interested in, but checks a lot of existential boxes and I need...

Jul 12

Flying the First Kite – Date One

The price of love today runs the average single person between $19 to $100 a month to expose yourself on popular dating apps. Inflation...

Jul 5

Grief Cleaning - What to Keep & Discard

(I actually have a 1964 Red Corvair convertible in my garage, ergo the image above.) Endings are just beginnings in disguise, whether we...

Jun 18

The End and Beginning of Love

As far as I’m concerned, the only thing that happened in the entire world in 2023 is that my husband died. I faintly remember other...

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